Battles of the Sexiness: Short Hair vs. Long Hair

Ok this question has been vexing me for a long time. I have had relatively long hair for the majority of my life until last summer when I cut it seriously short for the first time. Everyone has been telling me to keep it short...every girl at least. I do like it short, especially this summer when I cut it into an angled bob with bangs and I was thrilled that I could actually pull it off. Now, I don't know if it's because I'm in that awkward in-between stage where my hair is slowly growing out and doesn't seem to look good no matter how I do it or if it's because this dilemma still plagues me in my sleep. 

I remember a guy friend once telling me that guys like longer hair on girls. Either this one statement has ruined my ability to comfortably take risks with my hair or it's actually true. I've always thought of short hair as cute and long hair as sexy. It seems like all my friends that are girls and my mom seem to like my hair better shorter. It feels stylish and confident and adorable, but what is it about long hair that makes me feel sexier and more beautiful? Is it like a cultural bias thing, is it something I fabricated in my head, or is there truth to it? Maybe I associate short hair as tomboyish like the best friend in Some Kind of Wonderful or as mom-hair. I mean there's a reason why all the VS Angels have long hair (except Selita Ebanks, but she's pretty scarce in the catalog).

Tell me if I'm crazy. GUYS what do you think??

P.S. There are other reasons why I like my hair short, like I can braid it and have a little more variety. Plus if you layer your hair the right way it will flatter you regardless of the length so that's not really the issue either.

TV Premieres I'm Looking Forward to This Fall

So eonline.com just released a list of fall TV premieres, and, if you know me very well, you may not that I will be counting down the days till each one because I am a TV-aholic. Let me share the ones about which I'm most anxious.

MELROSE PLACE - Tuesday, Sept. 8 @ 9 pm on The CW (SERIES PREMIERE)

-Well I was looking forward to watching the remake of this former hit show, but it looks like I won't be able to rekindle my long distance television relationship with Ashlee Simpson that has been on the rocks since The Ashlee Simpson Show ended a couple years ago because I have class at that time. =[ But the rest of you can watch! 

-Also premiering that night: 90210 @ 8 pm on The CW and Sons of Anarchy @ 10 pm on FX, which I hear is pretty interesting. +]

SO YOU THINK YOU CAN DANCE - Wednesday, Sept. 9 (same night) @ 8 pm on Fox

-I absolutely love this show. I've been watching it all summer, and this year they're being extra nice to us by starting the new season as soon as this fall instead of making us wait until next summer! Hopefully some more LMU kids will make it on again this season! Yay for Phillip, Arielle and Charles!

GLEE - Wednesday, Sept. 9 @ 9 pm on Fox (SERIES PREMIERE)

-This is the kind of show that seems right up my alley. The hype has been big about this show set in high school that, for once, is not centered solely around the popular kids and features the talent of young kids in Glee Club on a weekly basis.

ONE TREE HILL - Monday, Sept. 14 @ 8 pm on The CW

-Thanks to Soap Net, I've been catching up on all the One Tree Hill I've been missing over the past couple of years so I'm hooked again. Although I have heard rumors about Chad Michael Murray and Hilary Burton not returning this season, which would be dumb, but we'll just have to see.

GOSSIP GIRL - Monday, Sept. 14 @ 9 pm on The CW

-There's a reason we call this day Monday Funday...because we get to watch two amazing shows back to back! Soo excited about Gossip Girl this season because everybody is going to NYU somehow, and there are bound to be new characters to spice things up this season (including Hilary Duff). Definitely the show that I was most addicted to last year. Hopefully there will be new chemistry that's just as hot as Blair and Chuck's early second season sexual tension! A girl can only hope...

THE BEAUTIFUL LIFE - Wednesday, Sept. 16 @ 9 pm on The CW

-The day we've all been waiting for, Mischa Barton's return to TV! ... NOT! Anyway, this show about the lives of models could be promising. We'll just have to see. And for those of you who've been hearing about Mischa's latest tango with the mental ward, she will be remaining on the show, despite the fact that they had been auditioning other actresses to replace her if it came to that. A source tells me that she had been suicidal, but I'm sure she's all better now! (BTW if you're sensing a little bitterness here check a couple posts back to see why... *cough* selfishly ruined The OC to pursue her pathetic film career *cough*... I'm just saying she better be good in this show if she ever wants to be forgiven.)

IT'S ALWAYS SUNNY IN PHILADELPHIA - Thursday, Sept. 17 @ 10 pm on FX

-I've never watched it before, but everyone says it's really good, and they've been filming in Pasadena so I'm curious.

Three Under-the-Radar Guys Finally Gettin' a Little Play

So you know when you watch a movie and you kinda fall in love with one of the insanely hot characters and then you never see the actor in another movie again? Or when you see a really cute guy on TV and you have no idea who he is, but you wish there was a way to see him more. Anyway, I've had a few of these over the years...the guy from Airborne or My Girl 2 anyone?? And now all of the sudden I'm hearing about some of these guys again! Yay!

GUY #1: Michael Angarano

-You've Seen Him In...

-Sky High (2005)

-Little Secrets (2001)

-Lords of Dogtown (2005)

-"Will & Grace"

-"E.R."

and coming up in...

-Noah's Ark: The New Beginning (post-production)

-Gentlemen Broncos (post-production)

-Ceremony (pre-production)

and noowwwww he's dating Kristen Stewart. ooooooo aahhhhh. 

GUY #2: Justin Bartha

-You've Seen Him In...

-National Treasure (2004)

-Failure to Launch (2006)

-National Treasure: Book of Secrets (2007)

-The Hangover (2009)

and coming up in...

-New York, I Love You (completed)

-Holy Rollers (post-production)

-Long Time Gone (pre-production)

and now he's dating Ashley Olsen. Iiiii know. Ooooh ahhhhh.

Guy #3: Kyle Howard

-You've Seen Him In...

-"The Amanda Show" 

-"Friends" (1 episode- "The One with Joey's Award")

-Orange County (2002)

-"Providence" (3 episodes)

-"What I Like About You" (2 episodes)

-"The Drew Carey Show" (14 episodes)

-"Related" (14 episodes)

-"My Boys"

and guess what he's doing now....dating Lauren Conrad!! awwww yayy!!

I'm so glad that these charming and boyishly cute guys have found another way into our lives...by dating women that are already household names.

Is Bar Refaeli the new Gisele Bundchen?? I think not!

So I was just reading this article from one of the blogs, "Slaves to Fashion,"on the Glamour Magazine website (which I do just about every day), and the author made a prediction that Bar Refaeli was turning into the next Gisele Bundchen. I think this is ridiculous, but here were her points: Bar, until very recently, dated Leonardo DiCaprio who is also Gisele's ex. Once Bar was signed onto Victoria's Secret as an angel in 2007, Gisele supposedly quit because she didn't want to "share the same air as Leo's new girlfriend." Then after Gisele was dropped from her Rampage endorsement, the model they chose to replace her was Bar.

Here's what I think. First of all, I heard that Gisele quit Victoria's Secret because they couldn't pay her enough, and, as many of you may know, Gisele Bundchen is the highest paid model on the planet right now and the sixteenth richest woman in the entertainment world. And if you thought she was still wallowing in her VS Pink sweats over Leo, guess again because she's found companionship with the gorgeous and talented Super Bowl champ, New England Patriot Tom Brady. Gisele is also prettier and has a better body than Bar Refaeli. I mean, not to say that Bar isn't gorgeous, but Gisele is the one I'd rather be.

Now let's compare total campaign endorsements:

Gisele

-Christian Dior

-Balenciaga

-Mervyn's

-Dolce & Gabbana

-Missoni

-Versace

-Givenchy

-Bvlgari

-Lanvin

-Guerlain

-Valentino

-Ralph Lauren

-Earl Jean

-Zara

-Chloe

-Michael Kors

-Louis Vitton

-Victoria's Secret

-Nivea

-Apple

-and several Brazilian brands 

-and she has her own line of sandals called Ipanema Gisele Bundchen

Bar Refaeli

-All I could find was Rampage. Her wikipedia page isn't nearly as extensive.

To check out the article, click here.

Conspiracy Theory: Why can grown ups eat ice cream with their front teeth?

So I was at Sami's the other day, and we were discussing how our teeth were too sensitive to eat cold things with our front teeth. Then I brought up how when I was little, I remember grown ups being able to do it, and everybody always said you just grow out of it. So you would think that my teeth would be mature enough to eat ice cream by the time I was 19. 

Then Sami's sister, Suzy, brought up the possibility that all grown ups really wear dentures, and that's the only reason why they can eat ice cream with their front teeth. Have we been raised in the midst of this conspiracy???? What do you think? Any dentists have an answer??

How do you NOT lead somebody on?

Sooo I think I need a little advice...from girls or guys. You'd think I'd know this by now, but I'm finding that I may not have mastered this as well as I'd thought. Anyway, how do you not lead guys on and send them the wrong signals when you already have a boyfriend? Seriously, I need to figure this out. Please help!

Coping Mechanisms

So tell me if this happens to you.

Today I was feeling pretty frustrated. I'm the kind of person who needs to stay busy, and, for whatever reason, this week has been unusually uneventful. Today was about the 4th day in a row that I've been home all day basically, with the exception of work, the gym, taking my brother places, and one very brief night with some friends at Zephyr's. Anyway...so I'm sitting on my couch, watching The OC of course, trying to find someone who's not busy...but nobody. By this time I'm getting a little stir crazy, so I resort to my go-to coping mechanism...go see a movie that I've been wanting to see but that nobody wants to see with me, alone. Today it was Away We Go at the Laemmle in Pasadena. Then I got stressed out because I didn't want to pay for parking, and I convinced myself that my car would get towed if I parked in the Vroman's parking lot. Then I stopped by the $2 theater to see if anything I wanted to see was playing...no luck. Then, as I drove around for about five minutes feeling a little discouraged at the thought of having to go back home, I thought, "What the hell!" So I went to the Paseo and I Love You, Beth Cooper just happened to be playing right when I got there.

Anyway, here's my thing. Seeing a movie alone for me is the one thing that always puts me at ease. It's where I go when everybody's driving me crazy or I just need to be alone and get away or when I have a problem that I can't figure out how to solve or I'm depressed or lonely or if I just feel like having an independent day to convince myself that I don't need anybody else. If you don't have a coping mechanism like this, get one. There have been many days when my sanity was teetering off the edge until I bought that over-priced movie ticket.

I'd imagine that it's something different for everyone. What's yours?

Do I Kiss Weird or Something?

Ok so I just saw this picture of Blake Lively and Penn Badgley kissing on JustJared.buzznet.com, and two things bothered me immediately. 1) The fact that there were referred to as ON-and-off-screen couple because I think Dan and Serena are like the most annoying couple on Gossip Girl, and I'm crossing my fingers that Serena finally gets with somebody new like Dan's long lost brother (oooooooo). 2) The picture shows that, while Penn and Blake are kissing, BLAKE'S ENTIRE MOUTH IS INSIDE OF PENN'S! IS IT JUST ME OR IS THAT WEIRD AND NOT KISSING??

Like I don't know if there are rules to kissing or anything. I remember this girl once told me that the girl's top lip is supposed to be over the guy's top lip and then her bottom and then his bottom, but....I don't know...is it just me or is it not supposed to be that technical? I mean I hope I'm not getting too graphic here, but I'm pretty sure when I kiss I switch it up a little and I couldn't even tell you which lip was on top of who's. I think I'm a pretty alright kisser too as far as I know so is there something critical that I've been missing all this time?

I just think it's weird that her whole mouth is inside of his. That is not a kiss in my opinion. That is Penn attempting to swallow her kiss. It's weird. I mean, I think it is. Do you guys kiss like that? I'm just curious. No judgment.

Any clever tongue tricks you guys want to share? Kissing is kinda fun to talk about.

Marriage Losing Its Value? by Tracey Lincoln

Tracey and I were supposed to collaborate on this topic, but I think she covered it beautifully without my help. Here's what she said:

"Marriage is a commitment and a bond that has been upheld for thousands of years. Over the years, it’s value has altered and transformed from sacred, to tradition, and now it seems to be some sort of an obligation.

With divorce skyrocketing, it makes me wonder why people get married in the first place. When problems in a marriage arise, how hard do those involved fight to solve such issues? The vows read, “to love and to cherish, through thickness and thin”. Since when did forever last a year? Since when did thickness flow as thin and shallow as most petty arguments? Since when did cherishing your significant other mean to treat them with hostility?

Marriage is a contract of infinite love and commitment. If two people are not ready, willing nor fit to sign a contract like this, then they shouldn’t get married at all. This vision has become such a fad that it now seems so easily dismissible. It’s like breaking this contract has become a norm, and laving three or four husbands in a lifetime is mundane.

For someone to get married and have doubts from the beginning that that they’re stepping into a situation that “might not work out” is strange. Why would you step into a life long commitment with doubt that it may not work out? If people cannot value the sanctity of marriage for what it really is, then they shouldn’t get married at all."

What do you think?

Zac and Vanessa Caught @ Panera

This picture was taken of the couple that I hate to love this past Sunday in Studio City in the parking lot of Panera Bread. By the way, when I say "hate to love" it's not because they're my guilty pleasure...there's no guilt about it. I'm quite shameless in fact. It's because I hate that Vanessa can have such amazing style and be with the man of my dreams. Like ok. Look at this picture: She looks perfectly styled. I love her glasses and bag. THEN she has to go and reach for Zac's immaculate backside JUST because she can (I mean she was probably pushing him to hurry up because they were being harassed by photogs but still). And I'm also really liking Zac's new haircut. Why wasn't I in Studio City on Sunday??

Raining Cats and Striking Young Women

I haven't really been a huge Harry Potter fan or anything, but I saw one of the movies the other day on HBO because my brother was watching it, and I'm like "HELLO this girl is crazy beautiful. Not to mention Daniel Radcliffe and Rupert Grint are pretty smokin' hot themselves." Hence probably the real reason for the success of the Harry Potter phenomenon. Anyway so I got a tweet from JustJared this morning that said, "Emma Watson is soaking wet." I opened it and here's this absolutely beautiful picture of this girl, probably feeling like absolute hell because she's in a big beautiful dress and it's getting rained on and everyone was there to photograph it. But look at this picture. 

Emotional Programming

So a couple weeks ago, my dad called me up telling me that I should read this book called Are You the One for Me? by Barbara De Angelis because he claimed that if he had read it when he was 19 it would have saved him a lot of wasted time. So I went to Borders and picked it up slightly hesitant because, first of all, it has a really cheesy cover, and second of all, because I have a boyfriend and I didn't know if I was prepared to find out from this book that he wasn't the one for me. Whatever. I got it anyway because I thought it would be fun. It has a lot of exercises and stuff in it that allow you to understand why you've made certain choices in the past in terms of your love life, and ultimately it's supposed to help you figure out the kind of person with whom you'd be compatible.

So right now I'm on the chapter about Emotional Programming. This chapter has exercises that ask you to recall events from your childhood and characteristics of your parents and their relationships that probably effected the way you understand and feel about love. It's pretty unreal when you start making the connections. Here are a couple of my examples that aren't too personal:

1. Multi-ethnic upbringing --> Open-minded toward people from all walks of life --> I have to be with somebody who is completely accepting and open-minded to those who are different or have different beliefs.

2. Parents' divorce --> Wary toward divorce --> I have to be with somebody who can be serious about a committed and long-term relationship. They have to be willing to try to work through problems because I believe that divorce often happens because the people aren't willing to work it out.

So yeah. Check out the book or just think about how your childhood has shaped the decisions you make today and why many of your relationships did or did not work out.

Problem: How can I be a good friend to so many good friends?

So maybe some of you can relate and hopefully give me a little advice. Summer has brought along a little problem that I wasn't really expecting. Somehow I've managed to have too many friends. I know it doesn't really sound like an actual problem, and believe me, that within itself is not a problem. The problem is that I have so many of them that I really appreciate and cherish, and I'm finding it rather difficult to make enough time for all of them, not to mention my family. I have my best friends from high school, all my friends from school, other good friends from junior high that I still like seeing, my boyfriend, and my family. 

So seriously does anybody have a solution for how to make time for everybody? I am at a loss.

What Confident Girls Need to Hear When Feeling Insecure (FOR THE GUYS)

Before I make my point, let me first make this distinction: confident girls require different levels and sorts of compliments than do girls who generally have lower self-esteems. Let me explain.

Many, if not all, of us go through periods of insecurity. Sometimes it's just an awkward day or a bad hair day when things just seem to be slightly off and you'd rather just skip it and move on with your life. Other times it's a period where maybe you hate your haircut or you're feeling out of shape or your social or work life just is not going right. And then there are other times when your negative mindset keeps you in a constant funk, feeling consistently imperfect and unsatisfied with yourself and your life. All of these can and do happen to anyone, but anyone checking the box of the latter qualifications is going to be classified as "insecure" for the sake of this message.

When a girl shares her insecurities with a boy, it is typically in one of these two cases: 1) She's feeling "insecure" and either consciously or subconsciously hopes that telling you everything wrong with her with provoke you to reciprocate with everything that's right with her and how wrong she is. This girl needs to hear this from you to feel good about herself. 2) Although this girl is generally "confident," there are times when she feels less than so and for whatever reason she feels close enough to you to be that open with you. Generally speaking, "confident" girls do not share their insecurities with anyone because they realize it's a temporary feeling and because THEY DO NOT NEED YOUR ATTENTION TO FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES.

GUYS LISTEN UP. Girls in Case #2/Confident girls feel good about themselves without your help. They know how to pump themselves up whether it be with a daily pep talk or 30 minutes on the elliptical or yoga or shopping or working hard in school or at work or just taking care of themselves. Anyway so if you actually hear one of these girls sharing with you anything that's wrong with you that's not purely self-deprecating humor then consider yourself special. Seriously. They do not do it often. So if they do, here is what you say: "Even at your worst you are still the most beautiful thing I've ever seen/in this building," or "Even at your worst I wouldn't trade you for any other woman in the world," or "Even at your worst I can't believe you actually thought I was good enough for you." Something like that, and I will tell you why. If you say something like, "Nooo. You're ridiculous. You know you're beautiful or smart or whatever," she'll just be thinking, "Well yeah I know, but that doesn't help." You know why? Because she's probably heard that a hundred times. Be original for heaven's sake. If you think a girl is amazing, you probably weren't the first one. If you say something like what I told you to say then she will believe you because it will mean something to her to know that you genuinely appreciate her and that, to you, she can do not wrong. That is insanely comforting. Try it.

Ladies agree?